Regardless of how you approach it parenting teenagers is no small feat. You will likely see that this is a very chaotic time for teens and their parents. This article will give you some ideas on how to keep your relationship with your child positive.
It’s important for you to remember that you are not their best friend you are their parent. Many parents fall into the trap of trying so hard to remain close to their teenagers that they simply let them do whatever they want. Teenagers don’t always admit it but they really do want your advice and guidance. At times they also need certain limits, and if you don’t provide these, it’s unlikely anyone else will, at least not in a constructive way. Most kids who don’t have the necessary limits end up in trouble at school, and with the law. You don’t have to be authoritarian in your approach to parenting teenagers, but you have to let your teenager know that you care what they are doing and that some things are not allowed. One of the biggest influences a parent can have on their teenager is the example they provide. Parents often do not practice what they preach. Teens are more likely to drink or get high if their parents are doing it regardless of what the parents are telling them to do. You’ve probably experienced the parrot effect of your teens, they say what you say regardless of whether or not you’ve told them not to. Therefore, setting the example you want them to follow is one of the first principles of parenting teenagers.
Parenting teens often requires you to be the parent and now allow some things. When you don’t approve of their actions it’s important that you reinforce to them that you still love them and care about them even though their actions aren’t pleasing. What this means for you is that your discipline and rules need to be set within a state of neutrality rather than anger. Pick your battles carefully. It has to be clear that when you make rules, it’s for the well being and safety of everyone, not because you’re mad or that you don’t like them. You must keep the position as a parent who wants what is best for their child but also one who loves that child unconditionally. You’ll quickly find that this is not as easy as it looks. You can watch your teen grow into a budding adult despite the difficult moments. Remember you are not the only one going through a transition here, your teen is struggling as much as you are. We sincerely hope the tips here have been helpful in getting you through parenting a teenager.
John Kennedy is a prolific writer on parenting and other related topics.
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