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Bullying In Schools:
What is Bullying? And What are The Many Types of Bullying in Schools?
Bullying is defined as the repetitive intent to hurt or damage an individual or a group of people that have little power to help themselves. It is an epidemic with far-reaching consequences for the perpetrators and the victims alike. Bullies use name-calling, rumors, and sometimes physical attacks to damage their victim’s self-esteem. Understanding who bullies are and how and why they choose their victims may be the first step in halting these hurtful behaviors.
What is bullying in schools?
It seems like the answer would be obvious, but it’s really much more complex than most people realize. A lot of parents think that the signs of bullying are obvious. Their child comes home beaten up regularly, or with bruises and other signs of physical abuse. Maybe he’s constantly “losing” his lunch money or spending longer than usual doing his homework because he’s really doing it for someone else. These can be classic factors of what is bullying in schools, but they are the most cliche ones. They’re real and they do still happen to kids today. However, today’s bullying in schools can take many other forms that parents may not recognize.
Bullying is not a new phenomenon. Children and teens have experienced it for decades. Many parents also consider it an essential rite of passage. However, recent numbers have made everyone, including educators, child psychologists, parents and pediatricians, sit up and take notice. One in seven children in American schools is either a bully or a victim.

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The Many Types of Bullying in Schools

What is Bullying in Schools? How to Recognize It

Video on Bullying in Schools Offers Valuable Tips to Parents

The Sad Elements of Bullying in Schools

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When I was in the 4th grade I got my first pair of glasses. I didn’t
realize what I couldn’t see until I began wearing glasses, then contact
lenses and eventually even lasik surgery. Until then, I thought everyone saw
things as I saw them. But once I could really see, I finally realized how bad
my vision had been all along.

In schools today it’s unfortunate that some administrators, teachers and
students are the same way. They have such limited vision that they cannot see
what is happening in their schools. The statistics are continuing to get
worse, literally thousands of students each day are staying home from school
out of fear. Fear of being talked about, teased, tormented and made fun of
to the point they believe they are an unfit out cast.

We have all seen the 1983 movie The Christmas Story, when 9 year old Ralphie
is getting teased and tortured everyday about little things such as not being
tough, his friends and his glasses. Then it happens one day, Ralphie
completely loses it after taking one last snow ball to the face! What does he
do? He charges the school bully Scut Farkus, and proceeds to beats up the
bully until his face is completely bloody and his mother comes down the
street and pulls him off of the bully. Back then, not much harm in that, we
might say the bully got what he deserved and Ralphie stood up for himself and
those around him. Problem solved! But fast forward 27 years later and see
how man different problems we would have. We already know that Ralphie gets
arrested, expelled from school, not to mention the troublemaker label and
even becomes the target of fighting from the gangs attached to the bully and
the list goes on.

This is an easy one to see, but my challenge to schools is what about the
Ralphie’s that would never fight back, the ones that simply going on
beating themselves up in their head thinking they are not good enough, they
don’t belong here, or even here on earth. Or the teenagers that become
depressed, they shut down and they begin to drink, smoke or cut until their
problems seem to go away! This is the slippery slope we see every day in the
lives of teenagers across the country, or should I say those of us that have
had a vision upgrade can see every day.

The reason I bring this up is there are hundreds of thousands of kids that
are waiting for someone to stand up for them, let them know they are safe and
that in spite of all the things being said and done, they are good enough to
be here and certainly good enough to achieve their goals and dreams in their

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Kathy Griffin may be a comedienne, but the flame-haired funny lady isn’t joking around when it comes to bullying. reports that Griffin recently appeared on CNN’s Larry King Live to comment on the recent teen suicides. Griffin didn’t make a single joke during her hour-long appearance as part of a panel on teen bullying hosted by King that also included Wanda Sykes, Nate Berkus, Tim Gunn, Chely Wright and Lance Bass. During the panel, Griffin announced plans to donate her entire salary from her Dec. 16 concert at the Gibson Amphitheatre in Universal City to The Trevor Project, an organization dedicated to ending suicide among LGBTQ youth.

The Emmy-winning comedienne is quickly becoming as well known for her philanthropy as for her jokes. The Los Angeles Times reports that Griffin was among the celebrities at the 32nd Carousel of Hope event in Beverly Hills. Held on Oct. 23, this year’s event honored Quincy Jones and Maria Shriver and featured a star-studded batch of performers, presenters and guests including Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony, Akon, Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson, Rod Stewart, Don Johnson, Stevie Wonder, Vanna White, Raquel Welch, Nicky Hilton, Lisa Rinna and Harry Hamlin and more.

The annual fundraiser for children’s diabetes has been hosted by society doyenne Barbara Davis since its inception, and she and her late oil tycoon husband Marvin Davis acquired the Beverly Hills Hotel and 20th Century Fox in the 1980s. Barbara Davis has raised $ 75 for the Children’s Diabetes Foundation and the Barbara Davis Center for Childhood Diabetes in Denver over the years. Griffin was among the guests who paid $ 1,000 for a ticket and told the Times, “I’ve got to tell you who I came with. I came with Jane Fonda. Isn’t that a great unlikely situation? I love it. I was ready to come by myself because I’m single, but then I said, ‘I’m too insecure.’ And Jane Fonda said, ‘You can drive with us.’ So she and her boyfriend, Richard [Perry, a music producer], drove me here.” Maybe Griffin isn’t on the D-list anymore after all!

Griffin’s popular Bravo reality show My Life on the D List is back for its sixth season. According to the official Bravo website for the show, the two-time Emmy-winning series is continuing to stir up trouble in Hollywood-and Washington! This season sees Griffin storming the capital to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” remodeling her Los Angeles home, judging a toddler beauty pageant alongside her 90-year-old mother and series regular, and stalking A-list stars like Liza Minnelli, Kristin Chenoweth and Lauren Conrad.

Tuning into Bravo isn’t the only way fans can get their Kathy Griffin fix, however, as the comedienne is currently on tour. Kathy Griffin tickets are available to see her stand-up routine in cities like Philadelphia, Pa.; Albany, N.Y.; Easton, Pa.; Baltimore, Md.; Mashantucket, Conn.; Worchester, Mass.; Las Vegas, Nev.; Palm Desert, Calif.; Universal City, Calif.; Santa Barbara, Calif.; Thackerville, Okla. and Jacksonville, Fla. Griffin will remain on the road through mid-December and already has a few dates in the books for 2011.

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With bullying such a common problem in today’s society parents can’t afford to ignore this issue. Here are 10 quick tips for parents to be proactive about bullying. These ideas will help children feel better about themselves and consider the feelings of others – useful strategies for children whether they are being bullied or are doing the bullying.

1. Respect your child’s positive qualities and tell them what they are to boost their self-esteem. The better children feel about themselves the more bully proof they are and the less likely they are to bully others.

2. Model respectful behavior yourself – our children copy what we do. E.g. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic and your children are in the car?

3. Listen to your children with empathy so they grow to show it for others. Saying things like “That must have been very scary for you” helps your children, because their feelings are being acknowledged and they truly feel heard.

4. Encourage your child’s social and emotional intelligence by talking about feelings and how other people feel. Questions like: “What do you think it was like for the others when that happened?” help children to see things from outside of their egocentric point of view.

5. Talk to your children about aggressive, submissive and assertive behavior so they understand about power in relationships.

6. Notice when your children are behaving well and tell them! Focusing on positive behavior is such a simple way to get more of it as well as boosting your children’s self-esteem!

7. Give your children opportunities to share their ideas about fighting and bullying and what might work to stop it. Ask questions like: “If … happened, what could you do to keep yourself safe?” to allow children to work out what they could do by themselves.

8. Teach them some concrete strategies to try as well. E.g. instead of focusing on the bullying imagine the bully swelling up and popping. Strategies like this which help a child stay calm can be very helpful. When children learn to be aware of their reactions and the part this plays in being bullied, they can choose to react differently.

9. Stay up to date with your child’s school’s bullying policy and about bullying in general. What do you know about bullying and technology? Find out more about cyberbullying so you are informed.

10. Support your children in solving their own fights or bullying issues rather than stepping in and doing it for them. Remember your response as a parent models a powerful message for your children.

Two coaching questions that are helpful around bullying are:

1. How do I show respect to my children?
2. Am I supporting them to solve their own problems?

If you ask yourselves coaching questions such as these everyday you will be building a close and loving relationship with your children as well as supporting them to deal with bullying and other challenges to the best of their capabilities. After all, isn’t this what children need as they grow towards independence?

Barbara Beccari M.Ed and parent-coach, is co-author of a beautiful children’s picture book about respectful relationships. Barbara is co-founder of parentSCOPE, a parent-coaching business acknowledged for its innovation. parentSCOPE supports parents to have loving and close relationships with their children, from babies to teens. Check out to find out more.

The dawn of a new era has arrived in the fight against cyberbullying with the official launch of Cyber Bullying Report. An Anti-Bullying and Internet Safety Services resource for fighting bullies and keeping you up to date on current events. The crown jewel of Cyber Bullying Report is the Anti-Cyberbullying Second Strike System anonymous publishing service designed to help victims of cyber bullies turn the tables on cyber bullies and cyber stalkers. This total package of internet safety resources is also fully automated current Cyber Security News machine.

The Stop Cyber Bullies Anti-CyberBullying Second Strike System is the ultimate weapon of mass victim empowerment that lets you the public take the web back from online bullies and stalkers. Whether you are a business looking to dispel a few dozen false complaints from former employees on consumer fraud sites or an individual looking to consolidate the truth in one centralized place and demand that your tormentor knock it off. All you have to do is sign up for a free membership and verify your email address. Not just for victims this system allows anyone to become an instant cyberbullying journalist by contributing links to documented incidents of cyberbullying and cyberstalking incidents in the news media.

Cyber Bullying Report is more than just a tool for cyber bully management. It is an all in one current events resource for the greater safety of the internet thanks to its Cyber Security Newsreel that brings you the latest cyberbullying, cyberstalking, cyberterrorism, anti-virus, and network security news from leading news agencies selected for reliability as well as popularity combined with computer virus alerts from leading network security companies. is off to a slow start due to the lead developer suffering a severe case of vertigo and is just now getting back on track to unleash its unlimited do gooder potential as soon as possible, but it needs your help today. Tell your friends about the next frontier in bully management so they can help join the fight to stop cyber bullies and make the internet safety today, tomorrow, and forever.

Arnold Wormser is an anti-bullying advocate and internet safety enthusiast. He is currently supporting the efforts of Cyber Bullying Report to stop cyber bullies.

Adults in a school community can achieve a great deal to counter bullying. However, the potential to make a real change lies with the students. Students respond more readily to the opinions of their peers. With this in mind, teachers or counselors should come up with a role-play which requires five players – the bully, the victim, the defender, the re-enforcer and the outsider. In the first role play, the players should support the bully. Then the role-play is reversed and they should support the victim. This role play is a powerful way to show the role of the bystanders in controlling what actually happens in the playground. The swing of power can just as easily be towards the victim, thus rejecting and controlling the bully’s aggressive behavior.

This exercise is conducted with 11 Grade Peer Support Leaders, so that they can teach it to their Grade 6 or Grade 7 groups. The leaders found it very effective, as the power struggle is felt even in role-play. It illustrates well how power is given to people by bystanders.

Victim empowerment helps the victim to gain confidence, become independent and resist bullying. Some programs teach the victims how to answer bullies to disarm and confuse them, thus reducing their power. This is an area where more research is urgently needed. The No Blame Approach needs to be adopted by all staff members when dealing with bullying. Most students, given the opportunity to reflect on their aggression without blame, are remorseful.

Anti-bullying now need to go several steps further – past the obvious, into the minds of students, who are, after all, the experts – and address those more subtle factors that act as barriers to bystander intervention. Critical to the creation of a non-violent, peaceful culture is the visible involvement of the whole school community. The perception of students in this study was that they had no support from the principal, teachers, non-teaching staff and entire student body.
This exercise is conducted with 11 Grade Peer Support Leaders, so that they can teach it to their Grade 6 or Grade 7 groups. The leaders found it very effective, as the power struggle is felt even in role-play. It illustrates well how power is given to people by bystanders.
Victim empowerment helps the victim to gain confidence, become independent and resist bullying. Some programs teach the victims how to answer bullies to disarm and confuse them, thus reducing their power. This is an area where more research is urgently needed. The No Blame Approach needs to be adopted by all staff members when dealing with bullying. Most students, given the opportunity to reflect on their aggression without blame, are remorseful.

Any Information on the basis of anti-bullying policies will be not effective if not students are motivated enough to get involved. It is indeed critical that programs now address the emotional deterrents of fear, awkwardness, group affiliation, enthusiasm and lack of concern. Future policies should examine the culture of the school, which lay down the behavioral code for incoming students.

By: Francis David

Francis helps parents, administrators and teachers learn about Character Education and how the Just Do The Right Thing Program can help kids of all levels find success both in and outside the Classroom.

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It’s no secret that Cyber Bullying and youth suicide are of growing concern and we are the first generation of parents to have to deal with this new threat to our children.

We watch the nightly news reports with unease as we hear of another child who has committed suicide as a result of cyber bullying and wonder what we can do to protect our children. The current measures which attempt to address bullying in our schools are failing because so many of them have failed to properly addressing the underlying dynamics which cause violence and these are: Shame and to a lesser degree, attachment. In addition to this our current views on bully management, often places the emphasis on punishment instead of prevention, and the reality is that the punishment only serves to enhance feelings of shame and in turn – increases the violent behaviour.

When we face a public health problem, an epidemic that is physically and emotionally harming thousands of young people, we need to rally our forces and do what is required to eliminate the problem. The time has come for us to acknowledge that violence in our schools is an issue that can be and must be addressed, and that it is not by preaching against the evil of violence, any more than by preaching against cancer, that the problem will be cured. It requires the willingness to look realistically at what we know, and to commit to doing what is necessary.

Deep fundamental shifts in our ways of thinking foster visible changes within society – understanding the deeper dynamics of violence such as bullying, leads to development of effective solutions both in the present and for the future.

I have looked at the root causes of violence, which are universal, and studied the most effective ways in which violent offenders are learning new behaviours all over the world. What I have learnt is that the purpose of violence is to force respect from other people. The less self-respect people feel for themselves, the more they are dependent on respect from others; for without a certain minimal amount of respect from others or the self, the self begins to feel dead inside, numb and empty. When people lack self-respect, and feel they are incapable of eliciting respect from others in the form of admiration for their achievements or their personalities, they may see no other way to get respect except in the form of fear, which could be thought of as a kind of substitute for admiration; and bullying does elicit fear, as it is intended to. Bullying in all its forms is intended to do just that, to get respect for those that have none for themselves. For when we feel a certain level of love and respect for ourselves we do not feel the need to get it from others by use of fear or force.

There is an epidemic of a lack of ‘self acceptance’ within our children and this may be where the cure to the problem of cyber bullying lies. When our children are worried about their ‘worth’ and ‘self esteem’ it creates dependence on peer acceptance and dependence on something so fickle, creates fear and anxiety.

If we really want to protect our children from cyber bullies, the only real and lasting protection we can offer them is to help them to learn Self Acceptance and Resilience.

No cyber bully can win against children, young people and adults who enjoy the mental, emotional and social well-being that emerges with simple self acceptance and resilience.

Amanda Robinson is the author of ‘The Silent Crisis – Simple Ways to Protect Children from Sexual Abuse’ and an ex police officer who has worked with both the victims and perpetrators of child sexual abuse. In the course of her work, she has developed a deep empathy and compassion for the victims of abuse and an in-depth understanding of the dynamics involved in child sexual abuse including the physical, emotional and spiritual wounds that are inflicted upon its young victims.

So often now days we hear about young parents not disciplining their children enough. We can blame some of that on the confusion that comes from the colleges of child development and the related abuse laws that have ensued. But there is often the other end of the spectrum where young parents try to pass of their bullying as discipline. This trend is very destructive to children especially those in elementary school, preschool, and younger ages.

For example, a boy repeatedly touches his sister’s new birthday toy to annoy her. After the nth time he jams his fingers into the dolls mouth, she gets frustrated and screams at him. Mom and Dad cannot stand screaming, so they rush into the room and tell her to stop. There is no effort to calm or comfort her first, just to shut her up, NOW. The daughter feels victimized but gets no sympathy for her plight, so she cries harder.

Now Mom and Dad are having a power struggle with their daughter because she did not obey them when they told her to stop screaming. There was no effort to tell their son to leave his sister alone. Instead, Mom says that if she does not stop screaming, the toy will be given to her brother. Does she want that?! This is said in a so – there! attitude. The girl feels violated by her parents as well as her brother. She was the victim but she is in trouble for reacting.

Mom is really mad that her daughter did not calm down when ordered to, so the girl is sent to her room to sit on her bed until she can stop crying. The time-out timer will not be started until the crying stops. So instead of sitting on her bed for 7 minutes (because she is 7 years old – one minute for each year of age is a good rule), she sits there until she can calm down, then the 7 minutes starts. This makes her unfair time-out even longer.

There are several things wrong with this scenario, but to say anything to the parents undermines their authority with their children. Authority – hah! This is not discipline, it is bullying. They girl has no recourse. She will get in trouble for back-talking if she argues her side. She will get in trouble no matter what she does, except shut up. The boy, on the other hand, has been rewarded for making his sister scream.

Young parents use this kind of bullying all the time and try to pass it off as parenting. They do not want the grandparents, in-laws, or anyone else to offer any parenting advice. They want to be respected as the parents who know what is best for their children. This is a ridiculous assumption, especially when most young parents have never taken any parenting classes. Yet they disregard the wisdom and experience of older parents and grandparents.

So what is really at play here? It is the young parents’ egos being offended. There is no real concern for the child’s welfare, just that they were disobeyed (even if they were wrong). Ironically, young parents often rely on their friends (also young parents) for parenting advice, so they support each other in their faulty methods and reasoning.

In the particular example mentioned above, the 7-year-old girl is the oldest of 4 children and is always the scapegoat. No matter who starts the problem, it is her fault because she screamed. Even when she is the victim, she ends up punished on her bed, or worse. What is happening to her self-esteem and psyche can only be destructive. Mom and Dad are creating a real problem for the future just so they can assuage their self-importance now.

Which brings us to another kind of bullying – Dads who pick on their children constantly. I see fathers and step-fathers, who often criticize their children and call them names, but it is “all in fun” and they are just “teasing.” Often they reduce the child to tears, but now they can call the child “baby” or some other name. What is the point of this? It is cruelty in an insidious form. The child is not allowed to get mad at Dad for his bullying. Reacting just brings on punishment. Yet Dads often do not stop until the child is pushed to a point of no return and disciplined. Moms who allow it are just as much at fault.

The excuse of “my parents did it to me and I turned out just fine” is an obvious lie. Picking on children is not the mark of someone who is just fine. The excuse of “I am toughening them up so they can deal with reality” is also a lie. The good in life is just as real as the bad. Children should be able to deal with reality in a healthy, proactive way. Instead, they just become bullies themselves. Again, it is the ego of the parents and their need for a sense of power that is at work here.

Only a coward gets his or her sense of power from bullying a child. It is easy to pick on someone younger and smaller, who must respect the parent and has no recourse for protection. In this same way, all child molesters and rapists are cowards, too. They cannot face their peers, so they pick on those who are smaller and/or younger and/or powerless. This is not a group that Dad (or Mom) should want to belong to.

All young parents, foster parents, and first-time parents should have to take the “Love & Logic” type parenting classes so that they do not keep disciplining from personal power point of view, but do what is best for the child instead. Yes, children need to be disciplined and respect their parents, but in the right ways for the right reasons. Children should be nurtured in a loving environment and corrected, when necessary, in a manner that leaves their self-esteem intact. There are plenty of good parenting methods available to those willing to learn.

Thank goodness children are resilient, and thank goodness that they interact with other relatives, friends, teachers, and childcare providers who may show them the love, compassion, and healthy discipline that they need. Thank goodness there are parenting magazines and groups able to guide those who want to parent with love and logic instead of ego and bullying! There is always hope. There is a middle ground in the spectrum from not enough discipline to too much. May we all stop disciplining for control issues and power struggles, and start disciplining with the child’s self-esteem and future goals in mind.

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