What Makes a Person Attractive?

Tuesday, August 20, 2019

What Makes a Person Attractive?

We are collectively obsessed with the idea that an attractive person is, first and foremost, someone who looks terrific. But that’s to ignore the widespread phenomenon of the objectively good looking individual who nevertheless fails to hold much appeal – and vice versa. Here is a guide to the psychology of that too seldom earnestly-studied issue: hotness.
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“Understandably enough, our societies pay vast attention to the idea of ‘sexiness’; far more questionably, they tempt us to believe that it might be easy to understand what this quality consists of. The leading suggestion takes its starting point from the biological sciences: we learn that sex aims at successful reproduction and genetic fitness in the coming generation. Therefore ‘sexiness’ must logically comprise a host of semi-conscious signals of fertility and of resistance to disease: bilateral facial symmetry, large bright pupils, full lips, youthful skin and melanin-rich hair…”


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  1. The School of Life says:

    What do you think makes someone "attractive"? Let us know in the comments below and make sure you do not miss any of our future films by subscribing to our channel and turning on notifications.

  2. john says:

    Hi, how much would you charge if I wanted to advertise my channel in your videos?

  3. Trex bra says:

    My soul is eroding

  4. Remi Lalaque says:

    Emotional intelligence is nearly nothing nowaday. Not because beauty matters but because peoples make it matter.

  5. Tavoi Aiono says:

    What makes a person attractive??? ENERGY. Good old fashion clean cut energy. The language of the Universe is Energy and vibration. Check yours everyday and if you want that woman or that man….you tune in on their frequency and let the magic go nuts. Then wait and watch nature do its things.

  6. st2838 says:

    Mondo gazungas

  7. Issa hataki says:

    Don’t give a fuck ,Be Different ,funny and unattached..

  8. Mrinalini Sud says:

    The title is misleading. Also, now all your videos just sing the same tone. There's no new research. Just old information in new bottles.

  9. Fr00ter says:

    Uhm well certainly not Kanye and kim, fcking clickbait

  10. Daniel Santos says:

    How can you be FREE from these narratives?  "I need to work to pay my bills…I need to please other people all the time…I need to be perfect at everything I do…I never can be vulnerable, otherwise people will make fun of me…"

    Here's a meaningful conversation I had with my friend and coach colleague Alison Dubbins on those topics. Enjoy, share the video, subscribe to the channel! Let's talk!


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  12. Eric The Red says:

    Men are attracted to health, strong genes and child rearing ability. Women are attracted to social status and the ability to protect and provide.

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  15. A O says:

    Had to watch the video twice, I can’t pay attention while I’m reading the comments 😓

  16. Sharr Prout says:

    Lol, can anyone translate this please?😭

  17. Abe Lincoln says:

    What about gay couples?

  18. DeanRendar84 says:

    Be a good wingman, because I'm supposed to be too modest to demand for it

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  20. Jamie says:

    fun fact, good looks highly correlates to a better personality on multiple studies. looks is everything because its contributes to everything

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